New Tricks for Better Sex: Doggie Style

The ancient bible of all things sexual, the Kama Sutra, described twenty-two sexual positions. The modern manual of all things sexual, the women’s magazine, has by now probably described twenty-two hudndred complicated sexual positions. Yet the average couple generally utilizes just two or three positions in the ordinary course of their sexual routines. And while men often report that their idea of being sexually adventurous includes trying different sexual positions, even guys who long for novelty often remain loyal to their old standbys. Why are positions so often written about and so rarely adopted? Well, for one thing, unique positions are difficult to sustain for the non-gymnast. And most positions rely on practice to get right. If a position doesn’t feel good the first or second time, it’s usually dropped from the rotation, like a boring song deleted from your mp3 player.

Now, just to be clear, when I speak of sexual positions, I’m referring to positions for intercourse. Although for simplicity’s sake I’ll be referring to male and female partners, there is no reason why these positions can’t work for two women using a strap-on, too.

Since you probably know that orgasms for women are not about intercourse alone, you might wonder why I’m focusing on intercourse positions. Well, a great position can increase clitoral stimulation and hit the g-spot more vigorously, so pleasure for women, as well as orgasm during intercourse for those who have them, is often about the angle of penetration and the tiny details or variations of the position.

In this topic, I’m going to describe variations to one tried and true position: doggie style. First, though, I want to give you a few words of advice that apply no matter which alternatives you choose. Always be sure that your g-spot – or, if you’re a man listening to this, that your woman’s g-spot – is aroused before penetration. To review some basics about the g-spot – it’s a super sensitive area behind the front wall of the vagina, a few inches in. Firm, well-placed stroking of this pleasure palace can open up a whole new world of sensation, but often this is best done with fingers. I’ve discussed this before in my orgasm articles, so if you want to know a lot more about the g-spot, go have a look. I also suggest spending 10 to 20 minutes – minimum – kissing, fondling, sexy talking, oral play, toy play and anything else your imagination can come up with before you go after the g-spot. Now, that might not always be what a woman wants, but unless you hear otherwise, it’s best to proceed that way. If she clues you in that she’s eager for something different, of course, go in that direction. Ok – let’s get to the old doggie style and add a few new tricks.

When people want to connect with their raw, uninhibited, animal sexuality, they often look to this position. For precise angling to hit the g-spot, there’s no easier position. You know the basic stance already: the woman is on her hands and knees or bent over and the man is standing up or kneeling and entering her vagina from behind. There’s something very primal about this position that brings out the beast in even the most sensitive guy. But it’s the variations on the position that really make the difference.

So let’s start with one that takes advantage of a piece of very familiar furniture – the living room couch. Here, the woman is bent over as if on all fours, except she has one knee on the couch and one leg supporting her body with her foot on the floor. She can use one arm to brace herself against the back of the couch, too. Her partner is behind her, both knees on the couch. Now, she can arch her back or create a little hump in her back – like the cat stretch in yoga – and the angle of penetration will then change.

Another variation works well if you have a chaise lounge or an armless couch. Here the woman is on the edge of the armless part of the couch and her partner is standing behind her. Her knees are at the very edge of the couch and her body can be braced by her arms. Her arms can either be bent at a 45 degree angle, or she can hold the front of her body up high by straightening her arms fully. Finally, she can lower her face to the couch and stretch her arms out completely flat in front of her, the way you’ve seen cats do. When they stretch in this very elongated way, they lean back with their butts and their paws are all the way out front. It’s that kind of position. Again, the slightest shift in the tilt of her butt or the arch of her back will change where the penetration is felt most deeply inside her, and this changes the way her g-spot is targeted. Because this position also allows for very deep penetration and thrusting, even her cervix can be hit, or the area around the cervix, and a lot of women are very sensitive to pressure in this area, and find it extremely pleasurable, even orgasmic.

Now, if a couple has had enough time on the couch, and they’re lucky enough to live someplace that has two stories – or maybe even a basement – they may want to take advantage of their house’s special architecture – specifically, the stairs.

This position is easiest to explain if you visualize it as I describe it. So imagine you’re a woman and you’re heading upstairs – your partner is a few steps behind you. If you’re a man listening to this it might feel a little weird, but bear with me – it’s the best way to imagine this. Now you (the woman) stop and drop face down so that you’re kind of lying on the stairs, supported by the stairs, leaning on them, on an angle, and it might look as if you’re semi-standing against the stairs. Your guy stops behind you too – a step or two below so that he can enter you from behind – doggie style. Your bodies are on an angle, and he’s on top of you. The stairs form a strong foundation and in this position, reaching the g-spot is like hitting a bull’s-eye, and thats exactly what you want for good stimulation. Plus, in this position your partner feels the friction on the most sensitive spot on his penis as your g-spot becomes more and more swollen with arousal. That also means that you may want to switch up the angle after a little while – because you don’t want this pleasure feast to end too quickly.

Finally – all the same elements I’ve just described apply to using the vanity or counter top in a bathroom or kitchen. These offer lots of rock-solid support during another variation on doggie style where both partners are standing, but the woman is leaning on the counter – or clutching the faucet handles for support. And depending on height ratios, the angle of penetration will change. You can play around with standing on tiptoes or wearing shoes, too: try stiletto heels or boots, and one of you wearing shoes, the other barefoot. Remember, every inch higher or lower, every shift in the angle of a partner’s bottom or pelvis affects stimulation for you both.

Before I close, I want to offer an important tip for women about communicating pleasure in any of these positions. Expressing delight in your sensitivity is a surefire way to motivate and thrill your partner, so when he hits the right spot try saying something like, “that is so sensitive! I can’t believe how good it feels. You have to remember that spot!” By declaring yourself that way, you draw his attention to what he’s doing and where he’s putting pressure. He’ll be much more likely to hit the right target next time, too.